Tujuan Dan Arah Sebuah Perkahwinan

Perkahwinan adalah satu perjanjian, satu ikatan, satu amanah dan satu wadah untuk suami isteri menuju ke syurga mendekatkan diri kepada Allah SWT.

Syukur pada Yg Esa yg telah menjadikan kasih sayang dia antara kita untuk kita memilih membina masjid dgn tujuan Kerana mencari Redha Allah.

Perkahwinan juga satu perjuangan yg memiliki satu tujuan di bawah Rahmat Yg Esa. Kita berjalan seiringan untuk bersama berjalan mencapai kehormanian kebahagiaan mahligai yg kita bina.

Perkahwinan juga adalah untuk membentuk keluarga yg melahirkan anak-anak Umat Rasullullah yg mengenal Allah dan Rasul.

Belajar dan terus berjuang hingga ke akhir hayat untuk kita membina mahligai keluarga Islam yang penuh barakah dan rahmat.

Harapan Vs Rezeki...

Assalamualaikum.

Malam ni rasa sangat nak tulis dan cakap dengan seseorang, tapi tak ada teman nak luahkan cerita. So, just written up story in this blog. So, tak la pendam dan sedih sangat. Hahaha. As sesi meluahkan perasaan dan rasa kejap malam ni.

Harapan Vs Rezeki.

Semua manusia mempunyai harapan dan masing-masing Allah dah tentukan rezeki masing-masing.  Subhanallah, rezeki nikmat Allah tu sangat luas dan banyak. Tak mampu nak kita hitung.  Alhamdulillah3×


Okay, malam ni nk cerita pasal keajaiban rasa seorang isteri selepas berkahwin. Semua wanita bila dah kahiwn ni, benda yg dia sangat gembira teruja ada menimang cahaya mata. Cahaya mata tu adalah satu anugerah paling indah untuk suami isteri yg pertama kali nak ada anak ni.


Sebulan dua bulan dah kahwin tu perasan nak ada baby tk la kuat sangat, biasa2 ja. Tak ada merancang dan tak mengharapkan sangat. Masing-masing sibuk dan duduk pun jauh2, kahwin hidup dalam pjj.
Lama2 dan masuk bulan 3 ke atas, orang semua sibuk bertanya dan tgk kawan2 yg baru kahwin dah  hamil dan ada baby. Yg ada baby dah, nak masuk number 2 baby. Alhamdulillah. Rezeki Allah bagi.

Dan aku masih senyum kuat bertahan dan mengharap.  Memang sangat nk baby.  Tk tahu nk ckp mcm mana.  Kadangkala tu rasa segan ja dgn org dan dgn keluarga mertua.

Menangis dalam hati dan monolog, "positif Mira, insya Allah, ada la rezeki hang nanti.". Senyum ja org tanya. Minta orang  doakan moga ada la rezeki kami nanti Allah bagi. Aamin.


Cerita bulan 12, 2018.

Period datang lewat dalam 3 hari mcm tu. Excited la sebab dalam hati ni berbunga sangat, kata mungkin ada "isi" kot. Happy tak sangka sekali dgn husband.  Siap beli la pregnancy test tu.  Sebut pasal cek UPT ni, actually banyak kali dah beli dan test. Hehe. Saja la intai test. Kot2 ada isi.

Tapi still negatif. Takpa..keep move on dan mengharap. Sebab hari ke empat bulan 12 yg lewat period tu, period datang. Time tu agak kecewa la. Tapi takpa, sebab fikir Allah SWT lebih mengetahui waktu yg sesuai untuk kami memiliki anak.. Reda dan terus mengahrap dan berusaha.  Keep pray.


Tahun 2019, January.

Tahun ni, masing-masing decide untuk balik perak- kedah, selang 2 minggu sebulan.  Kira 2 kali sebulan ja jumpa balik ulang alik, demi saving dan masa depan. Huhu

Then, for this january ni, period still lewat 6 hari, punya la semangat nk cek beli upt semua. Siap ajak husband pergi buat scan. Hahah..over sangat.

Nak cek dgn suami tk sempat, sebab dah nak balik kedah. So husband kata cek di Kedah, nanti share result. Firstly, sangat sedih sebab kena cek sorang-sorang dan tak ada suami di sisi nk temankan. Haha
...gedik sangat kan kita. Tapi suami pesan, kena belajar kuat dan berdikari. (Oohh...time tu dgr perkataan tu ayaq mata jatuh berlinangan membasahi pipiku).. bagi isteri, ini adalah pengalaman pertama dia nk feeling rasa untuk jadi bakal ibu. Dan sangatlah mengharapkan suami dia teman ada selalu di sisinya. Drama sangat la.. huhu



Tak tahu la, banyak main perasaan dan layan merajuk. Oh perempuan. Kesiannya suami kita kena layan karenah isteri dia yg macam-macam hal. Huhu


Okay,  beli UPT sampai 3, dan kesemuanya negatif. Dan tetiba rasa sakit perut mcm nk period. And then pergi cek, ada bleeding. Okay, period. Okay, memang tk mengandung. Just reda. But tengah nk reda tu, bohong la kata kita tk sedih. Of course, sedih tersangat-sangat tk tahu nk ckp.

Maybe i was so stressed out untuk nak hamil nak ada baby, sampai i rasa semua simptom ibu mengandung (peraaan ja, padahal bukan😂) berangan rasa je. And husband layan ja. Haha. Siap tk minum cafe, tk makan nenas dan mcm2 lagi.  But, Allah knows better. He has a good plan for us. I kena belajar untuk kuat dan reda dgn iklasi sepenuh hati.


Ya, isteri beli dan test upt test tu banyak kali, tu tanda perkara biasa bagi mereka yg terlalu rasa terdesak untuk preggy. Sampai lupa bahawa itu kerja Allah. Dia yg memberi rezeki. Kita da usaha, tapi bukan atas sebab usaha kita Allah nak baby. Sebaliknya semua atas kehendak dan ketentuan Allah. Rezeki Allah, kita hanya meminta, yg memberi itu Allah, Tuhan yang Maha Agung lagi Maha Mengasihani


So, teruskan berharap dan yakinlah dengan rezeki Allah.


Muhasabah balik, istighfar banyak-banyak. Mungkin kadang kita terlalu harap dan nak, sehingga kita jadi kecewa sangat,  stesss dan bila kita sedih stress, kita tk perasan apa yg kita dah tuturkan dan cakap. Dan seolah kita tk yakin dengan kekuasaan kebesaran Allah.


So, pujuk diri cepat2 balik.. takut tersasar hanyut dalam kesedihan melampau dan sampai kita menidakkan kebenaran hak sebenarnya..


Buat suami, teruskan perjuangan untuk memberi sokongan moral, nasihat dan sabarlah dgn isteri anda... Mereka sangat unik. Ya, unik dan terlalu kompleks untuk di jaga..hhahahah.. Hati mereka sungguh halus... Isteri  pulak jgn la terlalu over nak suami pujuk dan buat gitu gini. Percayalah, depa tak akan buat. Hahaha. Untung sangat nk buat tanpa di suruh.   Kadangkala apa yg suami janji tk semua depa akan ingat dan akan buatkan. So jangan amek peduli dan fikir sangat. Fikir kebaikan , kehebatan dan pengorbanan suami. Masya Allah.. suami kita sangat osem!


Just cool and happy. Okay saja. Insya Allah, pasti ada rezeki nanti. Keep positive and put high confidence to Allah.


Yg menanti dalam sabar dan redar.

Doakan kami dikurniakan anak-anak yang Soleh dan solehah penyejuk jiwa dan mata. Aamin.

Nasihat buat pengantin baru.

Perkahwinan itu bukan mengenai tentang persamaan sahaja tapi mengenai hal tolak ansur, perbezaan dan pengorbanan.

Di mata masyarakat, hanya seorang isteri yang perlu mengalah dan berkorban, tapi di mata Islam, suami dan isteri itu perlu sama-sama bertolak ansur dalam hal tanggungjawab dan perasaan.

Selalulah kita melihat akan kebaikan dan kelebihan pasangan kita berbanding melihat pada kekurangan dan kesalahan nya.

Semakin banyak kita bersyukur dan meraikan, semakin utuh kuat sebuah perhubungan.

Kurangkan perselisihan faham, tambahkan kasih sayang dan cinta sesama pasangan.

-motivator rumah tangga-

Puisi Rindu Untuk Suami Tercinta

Sebuah rindu
Tidak dapat ku lakarkan mahupun ku tuliskan di atas sekeping kertas putih.

Kerana sebuah rindu itu
terlalu luas dan subjektif
Tak mampu di huraikan dengan kata-kata.

Sebuah rindu itu
hanya mampu terkandung erat dalam hati.
Rapi tersimpan merindui kekasih hati.

Sebuah rindu
Dipisahkan oleh jarak, namun kasih sayang dan cinta semakin bertambah,
Rindu semakin kuat,  mengingati seorang yg dikasihi jauh di sana.

Biar jasad dan mata tidak bertemu, namun hati selalu berpaut akan rasa rindu dan cinta.

Puisi seorang isteri buat suami yang dirindui. 💑

Masalah: Bagaimana mengendalikan masalah?

Bismillah, Assalamualaikum.

Insya-Allah, artikel pendek kali ini akan saya bahaskan dan bincang tentang "masalah". Semoga kita semua dapat menyelesaikan dan mengendalikan semua masalah kita dengan baik dan berjaya.

"Masalah", satu perkataan yang membawa maksud yang sangat berat dan negatif. Setiap dari kita ini mempunyai pelbagai masalah. Masalah boleh kita kategorikan dalam dua iaitu masalah yang sudah kita dapat jangkakan dan masalah yang berlaku di luar jangkaan kita.

Selagi mana kita hidup, selagi itu masalah dan urusan dunia ini akan berterusan ada. Masalah perlu diselesaikan, bukan di biarkan. Pesanan orang lama, "Jangan lari dari masalah, ianya tidak akan selesai sendiri".

Seperti kita tahu, hidup di dunia ini tiada istilah untuk "rehat". Pepatah mengatakan, di dunia inilah tempat kita sebagau manusia untuk berkerja keras dan beramal bersungguh-sungguh, kerana di sinilah tempat kita menuai biji benih dan bercucuk tanam untuk beramal. Dunia ini umpama sebuah ladang yang besar, yang mana semua orang akan berlumba-lumba untuk membuat kebaikan dan mendapatkan yang terbaik.

Hidup manusia di dunia ini tidak terlepas dari diuji. Selepas selesai satu masalah dan ujian, kita harus bersedia untuk menempuh menghadapi ujian dan masalah yang seterusnya. Seperti mana Allah telah berfirman di dalam kitab al-Qur'an dalam surah al-Insyirah 94:7 yang bermaksud,

" Maka apabila engkau telah selesai (daripada sesuatu urusan) tetaplah berkerja keras (untuk urusan yang lain).

Abila kita diuji dengan masalah atau sesuatu kesukaran, jangan sesekali kita panik dan lemah. Sebaliknya kita harus bijak dan bersedia dengan satu perancangan (plan). 

Teringat saya akan tulisan Dr. Mohd Shafie Md Amin, dalam karya beliau di dalam buku "You are the best, Kamu umat yang terbaik, Kun tum khaira ummah". Menurut beliau, yang penting bukanlah menyelesaikan masalah tetapi mengendalikan masalah kita dengan cara yang betul dan bijak.

Pertama sekali, dalam kita mengendalikan dan menyelesaikan masalah kita, cubalah kita kembali melihat diri dan sifat kita sebagai manusia. Kita selalu lupa akan bahawa hidup di dunia ini tidak selalu cerah dan tidak semua yang kita impikan dan kita rancang itu akan menjadi kenyataan. Kita selalu mengharap dan mahu susun atur perjalanan kehidupan kita ini mengikut kehendak dan aturan kita, sehingga kita lupa bahawa Allah itu Yang Maha Perancang. Kita lupa bahawa Allah itu Yang Maha Mengetahui dan apa segala yang berlaku ini adalah atas kehendak dan keizinan dari Nya.

Sifat kita sebagai manusia yang terburu-buru, tergesa-gesa, mahu semuanya cepat dan mudah, berlebih-lebihan, suka bersangka, suka panik dan cepat resah dan banyak lagi sifat semula jadi yang ada di dalam diri kita. Ya, semua sifat yang ada dalam diri manusia ini, Allah jadikan semua bersebab dan ada tujuannya. Walaupun semuanya kelihatan negatif, tapi ada kalanya semua sifat ini menjadi positif dan diperlukan mengikut keadaan, masa dan masalah.

Manusia, Allah telah berfirman dalam kitab suci Al-Qur'an bahawa sifat kita yang kurang bersyukur dan selalu lupa. Oleh yang demikan, Allah telah utuskan para Nabi dan Rasul, serta Allah tinggalkan bersama manusia rujukan yang sangat jelas dan nyata kebenarannya, iaitu al-Qur'an dan as-Sunnah/Hadis. Subhanallah, betapa cantik susunan ini. Allah Maha Besar lagi Maha Agung,

Apabila kita ditimpa masalah, cepatlah kita kembali kepada Pencipta kita. Jangan difikirkan masalah, tapi fikirkan bagaimana harus kita selesaikannya. Bukan hanya merungut kesedihan, sebaliknya bangun untuk menjadikan iman kita semakin kuat dan tinggi. 

Pengharapan dan kebergantungan kita. Kepada siapa kita selalu mengharap dan berharap? Bagaimana kebergantungan kita kepada Allah?  Bagaimana keyakinan kita kepada Allah?  

Setiap kali kita diuji dengan sesuatu masalah yang berat, kita selalu berbisik "Ya Allah, kenapa Engkau uji aku, Ya Allah, tolonglah aku." Dan hati kita jugak berbisik, "Adakah Tuhan sudah tidak sayang pada kita lagi.." Pelbagai bisikan yang kita lontarkan baik di mulut mahupun di hati.

Ingat, kita ada Agama dan Tuhan. Usah terlalu cepat menghukum dan menyalahkan Tuhan. Tanya pada diri kita, "Tuhan sudah tidak sayang aku atau aku yang sudah tidak sayang pada Tuhan?"

Kita yang tinggalkan dan lupa Nya. Kita yang selalu mencipta masalah dan membuat kejahatan. Ya, semuanya balik kembali pada diri sendiri.

Firman Alllah lagi dalam Surah Al-Haj 22:78 yang bermaksud "Dia telah memilih kamu dan Dia sekali-kali tidak menjadikan untuk kamu dalam agama (kaedah kehidupan berlandaskan al-Qur'an) suatu kesempitan..."

  

Lagi, Allah telah menegaskan dalam ayat ke 147 dalam surah An-Nisa' (4:147) yang bermaksud, 

"Allah tidak akan menyeksamu (menjadikan kamu teretekan dengan masalah), jika kamu bersyukur (mengikut perintah-Nya) dan beriman (yakin dan cinta kepada -Nya). Dan Allah Maha Mensyukuri (menjaga hamba-Nya dengan baik), dan Maha Mengetahui."

 Ingat, kita yang memilih dan kita jugak yang mengawal semua perkara dengan pertolongan dan kehendak Allah. 

Bagaimana kita mengendalikan masalah kita? Jawapannya, dengan melalukan perubahan dan berubah.  

"...Sesungguhnya Allah tidak akan mengubah keadaan sesuatu kaum sebelum mereka mengubah keadaan diri mereka sendiri..." ( Surah Ar-Ra'd 13:11)

“STOP STEREOTYPES AND LETS DO MUHASABAH ”

By: Noor Amira Md Akhir

“Do not judge the book by its cover”.  Do not easy and simple to judge others by what we see and hear. It is so unfair.

We live in a world filled with prejudice, bias, and stereotypes, and these are a part of our everyday life. We hear stereotypes every day and everywhere. In fact, most people have experienced it and will not miss doing this either realizing it or not. Unfortunately, sometimes we also often judge people without we really know them, and what we do and said can lead to stereotypes directly or indirectly.

What is stereotyping? According to psychologists, they defined that “a stereotype is a cognitive structure containing the perceiver’s knowledge, beliefs, and expectancies about some human social groups”.  Stereotypes can be positive or negative and it tends to overgeneralize.

As we are well aware, stereotyping is very dangerous and always occur in our life. People can be stereotyped in ways that sometimes are correct or incorrect, and every person, young or old, is labeled with either positive or negative stereotypes. Sometimes we can find ourselves in a situation where we make stereotypes for a group of people or individually person. For instance, we know that we get criticized about what we wear every single day and sometimes we also criticize others!  We are criticized in how we look like, how we act and vice versa.

Besides that, all stereotypes can be taken as challenges or just ignoring it. Do not let our life become messy and do not think too much about what people want to criticize and say about us. If we keep ending up with what the people said, our lives will unhappy and we will get dizzy or sick. What is good, we can accept and improve, but what is bad and wrong, just let it go. Thus, live with happiness and peace with our own style.

Instead of focusing on all the mistakes of each person, we should start paying more attention of how unique each person is.  All of us are different and we are complete each other. 

Stereotypes can affect people’s social lives, emotions, how people interact with their environment and create a dark side of identity and problems towards ourselves directly or indirectly. It also causes people to feel lonely, depressed and harmful to our environment and social life. Therefore, let’s keep stereotype out of the picture. Stop judging people, but do more reflect and ponder (muhasabah) toward ourselves.

“O Believers, Fear Allah. Let every soul look to what (provision) it has forwarded for the future, and fear Allah, for Allah is Aware (well-acquainted) of the things you do.” (Qur’an, Surah Al-Hashr 59:18)

 ***Writing Exercise on 9 March 2016

“IN WHAT YOU DO, DO IT PERFECTLY AS YOU CAN!"

Assalamualaikum, hello everyone!
 Just for share my final project for journalism class.

YES, NEVER STOP TO TRY AND DO THE BEST.

May this writing will help and aspired students outside  in order to keep struggling in their study.

 BY: NOOR AMIRA BINTI MD AKHIR

“As a Muslim, we need to do everything in our life with jiddiyyah,” said Nurul Iffah Binti M A Zaabaa, one of the excellent students from the Kulliyyah of Islamic Revealed Knowledge And Human Sciences (IRKHS), who was majoring in Fiqh and Usul Fiqh at International Islamic University Malaysia (IIUM).

The twenty-four years old beautiful and excellent lady is ex-IIUM’s student who constantly received the Dean’s List every semester since joining the university in 2012 until 2015. She graduated with first class honours with got high and excellent in her last GPA, 3.534 and CGPA which is 3.624.

Nurul Iffah, from Kuala Lumpur who was born at 25 June 1992, had been one of the excellent students since her primary and secondary school. “In what you do, do it perfectly as you can!,” said Nurul Iffah. This is her motto, which is very sentimental and important that has encouraged her to study and work successful and excellent.

She very particular in what she does, because for her, “As a Muslim, we need to do everything in our life with jiddiyyah (struggle) to prove to others that a Muslim is strong and excellent”. 

This is always motivated her to struggle and study hard till success in her study. According to her, a strong and excellent Muslim is a man who is excel in her or his life by using every legal (halal) and ethical ways which is in line based on our Syari’ah, not the wrong way which is unethical and haram. Being the dean’s list, students must not just obtain high GPA and CGPA, but they must have good ethics and moral as well, including holding their Islamic values in life.

Nurul Iffah, well known as Iffah, very loves to reading, cleaning and surf the internet. According to Iffah too, successful in academic, not only mean we got all straight ‘A’ in our result, but being successful in academic also means dividing your time with your family, friends and also involve to co-curricular activities.

Besides from being excellent academically by got Dean’s List every semester, she also active in her co-curricular by got 545 total points and 3.63 as co-curricular cumulative point which remarks as excellent. Iffah has been active in extracurricular activities like being in the vice president two of the Journalism Club, IIUM at year 2014/2015, joined the kulliyyah and mahallah activities and become a part of committee of Taaruf Weeks. With all her participation and involvement, her main focus is to gain experiences and knowledge.

Besides focus on academic, we need to involve and socialize. Our study and our activities must be balanced and we need manage our time properly.

Successful students know how to succeed because they have made their studies their top priority. Though it is important to make time for friends, family, extra-curricular activities, and even some solo down time, we should never neglect the time we need to spend studying. If we have a big exam coming up and do not feel prepared, then we should probably skip the big party or so on at least two days before it r as our preparation of that exam or quiz. 

Be smart student with smart plan and work hard to achieve our goal.

Besides that, Iffah believes that, the true definition of excellent and successful student is getting mardhatillah (blessing from God) in everything what we do. Besides that, she is very concerned with her relationship with Allah SWT and also towards human being.  To become successful person, these two aspects that we need to take care and take noted.

In our Islamic teaching, we need to concern of two elements which is “hablun minanallah wa hablun minannas” which mean that, whereby we fulfill our obligations toward Allah, we also need fulfill and responsible to take care relationship with man such as our parents, friends and lectures.

Iffah said that, “we cannot disobey what Allah has decreed on us what to do and do not forget Allah and always remember the main purpose of why He created us in this world”. As a Muslim, if we pay no attention to our relationship with Allah, then all your efforts will be wasted and zero.

She also shared that, besides that, we need to respect others in our life and the most important respect and ask blessing from your parents. Regarding to become a great student, Iffah said, “Do not forget to do all assignments and do not delay any task. What need to be finished must be finished on time”. 

Then, she further explained that, “Be an honest student by avoid plagiarism, go early to class and listen attentively to lectures”.

One of the factors why she can perform very well in her studies is because of the full attention that she gives during the lecture conducted in the class. She will make sure that she understands the topic during class time. If she does not, she will directly ask and meet the lecturer or ask her friends. “Actually, I do not study much and do not study hard in exam, but what I did is listen attentively and pay attention by focus 100% towards the lecturer in class,” said Iffah.

During in facing exams, she said that, she only did some revisions by revised twice or three times in what she have learned in class and also rewrite the note in every exam.  She further described, “When you understand the topic in the class, you can be relaxed once you get back to your room”.

Successful students know how to focus on their studies when it matters while also taking breaks when they need them. They can manage their time wisely, stick to meaningful study schedules, and make the most of their time in the classroom. In the process, successful students also know how to have a good time, and love gaining knowledge as much as they enjoy getting good grades.

According to Iffah, students need to know the right ways to them in order to control and manage their time and emotion. Most students will become ‘crazy’ and stress with examination. Exam is a part of medium to measure our understanding. 

She said, “Exam is a normal thing in education nowadays, so I do feel nervous in facing exams. Just revising smartly and sufficiently and then put tawakkal to Allah SWT”. These ways really made her fell peace and relax.

Then, Iffah continued her sharing in order to overcome and manage our stress during revision. She said, “In managing stress, doing fun activities such as window shopping and eating outside IIUM, these are best therapy that de-stress me a lot and during revision”.

 According to her experience, when she felt stressed and bored during study and revision, she will stop immediately and after gained her spirit, she will continued started her revision and study.

“A normal student wills always facing a problem called laziness, so that's why we need a true friend who can help us by give advice and motivation to us”, said Iffah.

Therefore, by having good friends is a part of factor that will help us to struggle in our study. Best friend is the one who when we seeing him or her, it will make us remember to Allah SWT, when we speaking to him or her, it will increase our knowledge and lastly, and what she or he do, it will remind us of the Hereafter. Friend is like our mirror, one hadith from our Prophet, Muhammad SAW said; “A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you bestfriend”. (Reported by Abu Dawood and Tirmidzi)

Regarding to the best experience during her time at IIUM, she said that, the best experience is whe she got to know many friends and lecturer in various Kulliyyah at IIUM and also from that, she got to know herself better and improve her communication and interpersonal skills. Have fun in IIUM, because this is one of the best places to study, not only about our subject but everything.

Lastly, Iffah shared and pointed out ten tips and advises for the younger generation of IIUMs’ students who will graduate with excellence and successful, which are; first, perform obligatory solah and make pray (Doa) to Allah SWT always, second is respect and obey your parent, third is always be courtesy and respect to lecturers and take care our attitude (adab) to them in order gaining knowledge and the fourth is be punctual and go early to class before the lecture came and enter the class.

Next, her fifth’s tip is focus and listen attentively to lectures in class and also try to remember it, sixth is do consultation with lecturers when needed and do not shy to ask the question if we do not understand and unclear, seventh is do your assignment properly, submit on time and the most important is avoid plagiarism, eighth is do revision early and have your own notes, ninth is choose a good friends and be a good friend to other and lastly take opportunity in co-curricular activities at IIUM. As we well know that, IIUM is a place that has plenty of knowledge, so take opportunity to explore it.

Iffah hope that, all these tips will helps and encourage students to study and get excellent result in their exam and also their life. Remember that, we have many chance and opportunity, so grab it now and always be grateful.

*** May Allah SWT give us strength and chance to be successful person in our life and let’s study hard and study smart. Do not give up!